All Good Things Come to an End.

"All good things come to an end" is most likely known as a verse, or a line found in the somewhat famous song of the artist Nelly Furtado. I heard her song for the first time a while back, when I was driving alone, listening to the radio and deep in thought…and of course still focusing on the road.

Flames to Dust, lovers to friends
Why do all good things come to an end?

I found that she had perfectly assembled words that seemed to sum up the awful truth that people tend to forget or ignore. Pretty much everything comes to an end. This reality seems to just be perhaps buried in our minds. Things that last long, may not seem to be ending. What I’m trying to say is that in life, some things are short lived and some things lasts longer, but things still come to an end. An example would be the famous line that is often exchanged in wedding vows, “till death do us part”, meaning even if people stay together for so long, it eventually ends…

But what lasts forever, is there anything that does? At one time in my life, I thought it was memories. But I soon realized memories sometimes fade in time, even though you try so hard to cling to every single bit of recollection you have of something or someone lost. This is actually a fear I share with one of my best friends. The sound of someone’s voice, the way they laugh, it gets lost in time little by little… My next idea was love. Love is a though word to define, but in this post, I mean love in all shape, size, sense and so on…the love you have for parent, for a friend and for a lover. I’m not sure if this statement is right, it might actually be completely wrong. However, at this moment in my life, I’m daring to believe that is it one thing that perhaps lives on.

This is a tricky statement, because friends come and go, lovers come and go. Do you still love a friend who betrays you, or a lover who hurt you? I would say most likely not. But I was referring more in the sense of when people are separated because of a non existent heart beat, a last breath…death. Or when people are forced to be apart from each other for particular reasons, etc. How ever lost a person might be to me, I still love them and always will. However, I do realize that I have only lived to experience almost 19 years of life, and I still have a lot to learn. In 50 years, in a year, a month, a week, or tomorrow, I might be presented with a new challenge, incident or individual that may possibly make me do a complete 180 degree change of mind. But until then, I believe true love lasts forever.

First Year

I am done first year. I really like the sound of that, makes me so happy at this moment. However, this seems all surreal for me at this moment. I feel like it what not so long ago that I was asking a million questions to my York alumni friends, preparing to separate from my closest friends, then finding out that one of best friends actually had a sudden change of plans and was now going to my school, having fun at my frosh week, and so on.

Either way, this has been a total of around 8 months of continuous and insightful learning. As my professor terminated one of my classes, she had said she along with the other head professor had planted in our heads seeds of doubt (I actually have one of worst headaches of my life right now…I’m not too sure if that’s exactly what she said, but it was something along those lines), she meant to say that at that moment, at the end of that class, they as professors had succeeded at forever changing our perspective, our understanding and the way we would perhaps make inferences in the future.

Amusingly, I have found that I do perceive things differently now and I am perplexed by how this change has been done in very little time. I wonder just how much more growth in terms of intellect, character, and more importantly as a whole person I will endure in following years to come…

Anyway, this year has been interesting, bad, good, fun, stressful and undeniably memorable.

Going With The Flow...Not That Easy?

“Going with the flow” is without doubt a concept that I go by for certain aspects of my life. Moreover, I also frequently advise people to follow this concept when they are found in an ambiguous situation.

Why? Well simply because I often believe that sometimes when one is found in a situation or in a series of events that are vague, too complicated to understand, etc…it’s better to just “go with the flow”…meaning just live and enjoy what’s going on, instead of spending time contemplating or trying to bring sense to it.

However, this concept might not always be easy to follow. I was reading my psychology book yesterday and there was this one explanation about how individuals tend to make attributions. Here is what was said in the book: “People make attributions mainly because they have a strong need to understand their experiences. They want to make sense out of their own behaviour, other’s behaviours, other’s actions and the events in their lives.”

I wanted to somehow relate this fact raised in the book to the difficulty people might have in maintaining a “going with the flow” attitude. I guess, it's not that easy to just not ask questions that would explain a situation (if that makes sense?). One usually wants to make sense to of what’s going on, what’s going to happen, etc.

Now, I am aware that after reading all the way up to here, all you might have in mind is: “what on earth is she talking about?” or some of you might actually be reading this and thinking “She totally misunderstood what Weiten was saying in the psych book.”

I hope not...=S but to the few people that read this, if I am wrong let me know.

Anyway “going with the flow” is something I don’t think I will be able to stop doing. I find it’s my safe (perhaps?) way of going about when I honestly have no idea what to do…even if there are possible conflicts that might tag along with it.

Facebook and The Blank Series

This will be a very short post, since again I should be studying and not procrastinating as I am at the moment and have for a big part of this day. Anyway, yesterday one of my best friends and I were talking about facebook. We were talking about how this “social utility” (as it claims itself to be on the homepage), was so much better before in its simplicity. I am really getting tired of the phenomenal amounts of applications, requests, etc… that greet me almost every single time I sign in.

Ok…so moving on…Today I discovered The Blank Series. I find them a blend of what I would say is funny, interesting and very true. The author of these series has raised many points that I can relate to such as: “So every time i like have an exam; i always end up doing anything BUT studying for it.” The author and I have realized many times, that we agree on many things (psychology is interesting, professor Quinlan is a good teacher, etc...) and we have similar interests. Well I really should get back to my book. I am starting to fear that I will not be able to get through everything on time for Thursday. =S

Lastly, to the author of The Blank Series…you deserved that free Second Cup drink and best of luck with integration!

First Blog

I really should be studying right now, but I really could not help myself to start “blogging”. I’ve wanted to start but always postponed it to another time. But finally, I guess I really could not help myself. Anyway, studying awaits me. On Thursday at roughly 11:30 (I believe), after about a 2 hours exam testing my knowledge of psychological disorders, treatments, as well as social psychology…first year is finally over! I can’t wait!