How do we define courage? A hero has a lot of courage, perhaps a leader has courage too. But today I realized that courage can be much more simple than that. Courage can sometimes simply be saying what you believe in regardless of what people will think.
Someday, are we gonna wake up A little bit older? Are we out of time? I know that, should we ever break up We’ll find a way to make up In the fullness of time
Tell me where d’you wanna be When all your friends have settled down In the suburbs on the greener side of town?
Time is all I fear It’s why I just keep running The quest for love was all that you and I held dear With the beat still in your head And the good book by your bed
And as your old man said “Good friends, well you can count them on one hand” And they’ll never judge you Whatever your crime I know that, I can include you And you’ll forgive me In the fullness of time
Time is all I fear It’s why I just keep running The quest for love was all that you and I held dear With the beat still in your head And the good book by your bed We will survive, you and I
I haven't blogged for a long time so I though maybe it was time I write a little something. School, I feel has definitely become more demanding since my last post. Especially since the independent study I'm doing has fully started rolling (although I feel completely and utterly lost, I'm determined to be an expert on egocentric dissorientation and the parietal cortex contributions to spatial memory..AH! :|..) But lately I was thinking about balance. I, like Freud, believe that balance is healthy (although I disagree with him on a vast array of other others things). But I find it's very hard to balance everything, to live a balanced life including: school, work, friends, families, etc.
But I do believe it's manageable...as long as everything gets done and there's not too much of one over the other.
In addition, in more specificity, even balancing different friendships can be difficult. I ran into these two girls from my old highschool on campus this week. They just started university this year and were both telling me how glad they were that it seemed that their highschool friendships are as strong as ever. In all honesty, as I listened to what they said, the main thing that came to my mind is how naive I thought they were.I know I might sound harsh and I'm not saying that what they are saying was stupid. It's just that with time, I can predict that they will drift apart, I'm pretty sure not all of them, but a few of the people they consider good friends, will eventually become mere acquaintances. As I told these girls, it takes an effort on both parties. If all of you make the effort to stay in touch and make time for each other, I can definitely see you all stay really good friends.
(This I didn't tell them) But if you try and make the effort all the time and the other party doesn't, very soon you'll realize maybe you lack things to talk about now...and that you've become almost strangers to each other. Unfortunately I guess, it happens. Schedule's clash, people are busy, there is nothing you much you can do...I'm also very aware, that some highschool friends stay really close. I just wanted to also raise a possibility that happens quite often as well.
Anyway...back to (my great attempt at) balancing life!
Since school started I unfortunately haven't gone much reading done. However yesterday I had the chance to read a few pages of my textbook for my Personality class. As I was still on the first chapter for my upcoming exam, I was reading on how Psychologists (both clinicians and researchers) have different ways of learning about how people are. In other words, there are different ways by which they can learn about one's personality. One way or one possible way of getting data (as called in the book) is getting informed by someone who knows the individual well. The author went on to explain how this route had both its advantages and disadvantages as did the rest of the methods to assess personality. However what I found interesting was how he quoted Cassio from Shakespeare's Othello in explaining a reputation.
Reputation, reputation, reputation! O, I have lost my reputation! I have lost the immortal part of myself, and what remains is bestial. My reputation, Iago, my reputation. (Othello, Act 2, Scene 3).
Funder, the author, explained how he believed that an individual's reputation may be that person's most important possession. The opinions that others have of your personality he continues to explain, greatly affect both your opportunities and expectancies. Additionally, there is some evidence that to a certain degree people become what is expected of them.
In retrospect, I do believe that in my pre-teen years and my early high school years I did bare importance to what people thought of me. And for a long time I used to think that I was actually still the same now. I do know however, that somewhat agree with Cassio from Othello. When I am dead, what is left immortal of me is what people remember me as, but unlike some of my family members my actions will never be govern by "what people might say".
Although perhaps I do believe that a "reputation" is important, I don't think I really care what people think of me. BUT I have started to realize that there is one exception. It bothers me to death when people have a conceived idea of me that is completely false. In instances like these, I am found completely bothered because it's completely erroneous. If for example I had been a complete bitch and back stabbed someone or something (I couldn't think of a better dramatic story), I would be fine with people talking about it (without exaggeration), as it is the truth. In comparison, if a person believes I am certain way but I have never acted that way at all in the past, then that would not sit too well with me. I don't know, maybe I am completely mistaken and what I am saying just generally shows that I do care about what people think of me...
But in the end, I suppose it doesn't matter. The people who know you for who you really are, are the one's that matter anyway. They are the people who will be privileged enough to know you and the people who will perhaps hold the immortal part of you that they will carry with them as long as they live (well...as long as there is notmemory impairment involved).
I know for fact that I am privileged to know many of the people I am acquainted with. To our stupid moments, our happy ones, sad ones and fun ones...and the list goes on.
..On a side note, I started watching "How I met your mom". I'm really like the show!
And yes this is how I feel like every day of my life. ...Haha jks
No I've really gotten used to it now haha...
This video his from How I met your mother. I own nothing.
